Saturday, February 25, 2012

So I've started a blog...

Thanks to my friend Damaris Huici, and her sister Daylin, I have been itching to start my own "new family" blog  since getting married two weeks ago. I kind of continued with their theme of blog names, which I hope they don't mind ;) I think it's a great idea to have a journal for the first years of marriage; and since I am not the best journal keeper, maybe having an electronic format will be easier to maintain. *crosses fingers*

Coming from a family in which my parents divorced at an early age...this whole marriage thing is quite new. You always feel as though you will achieve more than your parents; be better than them somehow. In my community, many of my peers are the first generation to graduate from college. Our parents are always telling us to live better, to be better; to aspire for more. This includes education and career, but we also find ourselves cataloging all those things our parents did that we will absolutely NEVER do (chancletaso to the face) or the things they didn't that we promise we will. Now that I'm married, it seems as though this is another aspect of "do it better".   -Don't get me wrong, my parents are amazing people individually, and they have both had meaningful relationships  post divorce, so I don't consider that a traumatic experience and not what I mean when I say "do it better". - Sometimes even parents that stay together are in need of re-evaluating and finding renewed commitment to their relationship.

I am very happy with my decision to marry Giuliano, one of the best men I know. We had a very long and VERY bumpy road to marriage, but one that I am grateful for. When we first met, we thought we had it all figured out. Boy serves mission, boy returns with honor, boy meets girl = marriage and a fairy tale happily ever after. Except this is real life, and it doesn't usually work out that way. There is no magical formula for marriage, and there is no guaranteed happily ever after. You create your own. When Giuliano popped the question Thanksgiving Day, I was sure at that moment that we were both committed to each other and to starting a new life together. Every day he surprises me more with his continued commitment and tenderness. He even * drum roll please* washes the dishes, puts his clothes away, and cooks. Things he did NOT do prior to our living together and which, frankly, had me a little worried  =) Giuliano is an example to me in his faith and in the way he places God at the head of our home. He also knows exactly how to break my bad moods, and I usually end up laughing it off. I am confident  that, although our relationship is not perfect, we will always find a way to work through any trial that comes our way. Here's to marriage, love, and finding your own happily ever after!

No comments:

Post a Comment